One of the more important principles we have managed to stumble across in our years of single dude travel is that of the return trip vacation. It’s great to go spend a week in Kuala Lumpur sampling the smorgasbord of Asian delicacies both culinary and feminine, but we find the real payoff comes some months later when we return for another visit.
The first trip is all about building a foundation. My basic strategy is to meet as many people as possible and make as many connections as possible. Obviously when we get the opportunity to take some super hot Bulgarian Chalga sluts back to the apartment we jump on it, but generally speaking the average high quality girl is not a huge fan of hooking up with some guy she just met at the club. Also she often has some a date with her “boyfriend” or plans with friends or family already that weekend so even if you really get along great when you first meet there are often logistical roadblocks to seeing much of someone right away after you meet. Frankly, when we travel, we tend to meet so many great chicks we don’t have time to see them all on a short trip anyway.
This is where the second trip comes in. It serves two main purposes. First, when you say you’re coming back it gives you much more credibility and differentiates you from the average DAFF on another futile stag trip who is only looking to get laid or to be some kind of sex tourist. Second, when you come back for your return trip you’re now her “friend” who she met before and not just some random gringo. That makes a big difference when she explains to her friends or mother who she’s going out with that night.
The basic strategy then:
1. On trip number one meet lots of hot girls and stay in contact when you leave via the internet.
2. Return for another trip with dates set up ahead of time and reap what you sowed on the first trip.
3. Go to another place, rinse and repeat. Or go and kill a third time at the same place again. Be careful, though, you’ll probably bring back some wife named Olga or Maria.
One further piece of advice: while you’re in contact in between trips be up front about what you’re after. I’ve made the mistake of making “dates” with girls who just thought my intentions were friendly. It totally sucks when you spend a precious vacation evening with a girl and when you go in for the kill she won’t go along because she has some boyfriend (or husband!) you didn’t even know about! Girls are very bad about being up front about boyfriends, so these days before I make plans with a girl I make it super clear what my intentions are by asking about her relationship status. If possible I will even have a little IM chat sex with her. If a girl will talk a little dirty with you online or on the phone she will get dirty with you in person, I promise.