So I’m not really what most people would consider a romantic dude. I have plenty of detractors who accuse me of having no emotions and I am outspoken in my opposition to what a traditional American girl would consider romantic things, like diamond rings, monagamy, etc. I think that life is a numbers game and one should date as much as possible to find out what one really wants.
But there’s one romantic thing that I do believe in and that is: love at first sight. Crazy right? But it’s true that in my extensive field research, here’s my observation: close to every time in my life I’ve met a girl that I’ve really gotten along with we have liked each other immediately.
I’m talking within minutes. It often seems instantaneous: I say hello to a girl and she immediately looks and me and smiles and says, “Hi!” in a way that makes me think, “OK, this one really likes me”. It’s not just because I’m super good looking, but every now and then I meet a beautiful blond Bulgarian girl who is totally into me from the moment I say hello. We talk for just a moment and everything just seems to click. When I get a gift from God like that, I make sure to jump on the chance.
So we’ve all had the opposite experience of approaching a girl and having and getting some really negative feedback right away from some bitchy girl. There was a time where I was reading a bunch of the pick-up-artist material and I knew that I could usually change that girl’s tune with various “negs” and basically being mean right back at her. I’ve certainly bagged plenty of chicks over the years who were bitchy when I first introduced myself; often those girls are quite insecure and the easiest to manipulate. But I never ended up really liking any of those girls, it was always just a challenge and at best we’d have a short and usually lame sex-based relationship and then go our separate ways.
These days I don’t bother wasting time on these insecure project girls. There are so many quality nice hot girls worldwide who don’t waste your time with that shit. My strategy is to work the room, talk to everyone and spend just a minute or two talking to someone. If I talk to a girl and we don’t click right away in that first minute, our odds of being right for each other go way down.
So if it isn’t working right away, I just move on. Our time is valuable – vacations never last long enough and last call is just around the corner, (unless you’re in Eastern Europe when it’s often never). I have seen so many guys wasting half the night talking some girl who they didn’t really get along with that well and then spending the rest of the night not hitting on all the other girls in the bar just because he got her number and didn’t want to screw things up with a girl he wasn’t even that into. Sure, she might even go out with you, and even fuck you, but if you don’t love the first 5 minutes with her it’s unlikely you’ll love the next 4 hours with her and even less so that you’ll love any significant period of time with her.
Moving on from mediocrity saves a lot of time for the real thing. When I meet a girl and we click right away, I make the most of it. I don’t work the room and hit on a bunch of other chicks unless I see body language from her that suggests I should go away for a while. When you click right away with a girl, make sure she gets a chance to realize how great you could be together and by all means get her contact info ASAP. You never know when her date for the night or cockblock girlfriend will get in your way.
One minute is all you need. In a target rich environment like Ladies Night at the Mono Loco in Antigua Guatemala you have to make the most of your evening. Pretend you’re speed dating and if after 60 seconds talking to a girl you’re underwhelmed, just move on. Look for love at first sight. You’ll know it when you see it. Trust your instincts and go for it.