So now you’ve arrived in wherever it is you’ve gone to give this new lifestyle a crack and now it’s finally time. You’ve done whatever groundwork you could, be it learning the language, getting in better shape, doing internet groundwork, whatever, and now it’s time to actually hit the pavement and get to work.
The question is now: where and when to do it? I like hanging out in bars as much as the last guy, but it’s not the best place to make new beautiful Bulgarian girlfriends with high heels and sex addictions. Which brings us to today’s first lesson:
Lesson 1 for today: Meet girls when the sun is up.
It’s so much more effective for so many reasons. When you’re at the bar there will be plenty of guys trying to pick up the same girls. The music is often too loud to talk, especially when there is a language barrier in play. It’s much more expensive. And the girls are on their guard more. Also when people are drinking they are much more likely to forget how much they liked you the next day. We of course do hit the bars when we’re traveling but it’s more for fun in that case. I have had many girls come through my life all throughout the world that I really liked and really got along great with, and with only a couple exceptions I met them before midnight. If you’re looking to really connect with someone you have to meet them when you’re not drinking. Which brings us to the next lesson:
Lesson 2 for today: Don’t chase the night.
We all know what it’s like: it’s getting late and you’re at the bar or club, we’ve been drinking steadily for hours and the girl population is thinning out. So what do we do? Order shots. Then one thing leads to another and we get super drunk and wake up the next afternoon hung over and alone at 3PM and have wasted most of the daylight, one of a limited number we have for the trip for nothing, just getting drunk. It’s unproductive and expensive and a total waste of time. Instead of ordering those shots, just go home and go to bed and wake up in time to go out and meet the girl of your dreams who is sitting at the table next to you at lunch.
One prime culprit for chasing the night was Boris, who whenever he got going drinking at the club would start buying everybody in sight drinks and get totally fucked up all night and then be totally useless till bar time the next night. You have to have self control in these foreign countries as many of them have extremely late or often no last call. I never made it to the end of the night in Bulgaria – I’d be totally trashed and leaving the club at 3 in the morning or later and there would still be a line of people waiting to get in. But I knew my limits.
Lesson 3: Find the best pick up coffee shop and set up shop there.
It’s a great way to spend the afternoon, especially if you’re in a warm climate and can sit outside sipping coffee, working on your laptop or reading a book and watching the girls walk by. Then when you see a beautiful girl, get to work. My tried and true technique when I lived in Bulgaria was to sit at a café on the sidewalk on Vitosha Blvd in downtown Sofia and try to not shit my pants when a drop dead beautiful girl walked by in a mini dress and high heels (all Bulgarian girls wear high heels 24/7) and wait for some girls to sit down near me. Eastern European girls love to sit around and drink a coffee for hours in the afternoon. Then I would wait for a crazy Bulgarian gypsy to come by and ask me for money in Bulgarian, which happened approximately once every 10 minutes. Then I’d turn to the girls.
“Excuse me, what is (s)he saying to me?”
They would then immediately shoo off the gypsy and I’d say thanks and pick up my book again and start counting.
1, 2, 3, 4, 5… wait for it…
“Where are you from?”
And we’re off ! And don’t limit yourself to coffee shops. Restaurants, malls, gyms, grocery stores, bookstores, are all way better places to meet girls. Or you could go to one of the hundreds of the little Eastern European clothing shops and pickup the gorgeous beauty working there on her 16 hour shift before she goes home to her concrete Soviet block apartment. But she’s free on Saturday night if you want to go out to the club. She’s got a new miniskirt and lingerie picked out already.